![]() ![]() Unlike greed, however, this envy is actually an envy of the seeming contentment, uniqueness or beauty of others. The besetting sin of a Four is envy, a deep desire to have what others seem to possess. Because they are so attuned to their inner lives, they often express their disappointments as aggression toward themselves. Because Fours perceive keenly the beauty and life around them, they tend to experience the present moment as continually disappointing-and often blame this on either themselves for not having the ability to express what is within them or they blame it on others for being unable to match the extraordinary script that the Four has unknowingly written for them. Fours are able to perceive multiple layers to reality and as a result they often live in a longing for deeper beauty, deeper meaning, deeper experience.Īs do Twos and Threes, Fours can struggle with feelings of shame and of inadequacy. Dreams and artistic visions are important to Fours, and they often dress iconoclastically in order to express the beauty and uniqueness they themselves desire to communicate to the world. Fours relish the symbolic, and see layers of meaning in even the most mundane of experiences. At their best, they have an uncanny ability to sense and accurately discern the feelings of others, as well as the “sense” of spaces and groups. Type Fours are highly sensitive and deeply aware of the beauty around them. In general, Fours have a tendency to invite people into “their world” (beautiful and carefully constructed, of course) rather than moving out to encounter others on their own terms. Unlike Ones who have a concrete Ideal in mind, Fours usually have some sense of the way the world, and relationships in particular, “should” go and are often disappointed when their more romantic projection of things isn’t realized. The active inner world of the Four projects outward on their expectations and hopes of others. Although many Fours have found some type of artistic expression, Fours are called “artists” because they shape, script and form all of life. Type Fours are often called the “artists” of the Enneagram, which can surprise some Fours who don’t have any connection to the more traditional art worlds. Alternately, they seek situations, relationships and circumstances that heighten their connection to their emotional world, they gravitate toward what other types would call “drama.” Fours can be so attached to their feelings that they live in them, rather than in reality. Of all the types, they are the most connected to and aware of their own feelings-often to their detriment. Type Fours are the final of the heart-centered triad. As a Type Four, I’ve had to do my work to ensure that these resources, prayers and information aren’t coming out of places of disintegration and scrambling for me, especially as I’ve encountered my own blocks to prayer and relationship with God. Part of the reason the series has been suspended has been life circumstances-but part of the reason is that the hardest type to examine, pull apart and evaluate honestly is your own. Source: The Enneagram Institute: Type Four However, when moving in their Direction of Integration (growth), envious, emotionally turbulent Fours become more objective and principled, like healthy Ones. When moving in their Direction of Disintegration (stress), aloof Fours suddenly become over-involved and clinging at Two. Key Motivations: Want to express themselves and their individuality, to create and surround themselves with beauty, to maintain certain moods and feelings, to withdraw to protect their self-image, to take care of emotional needs before attending to anything else, to attract a “rescuer.” Enneagram Four with a Five-Wing: “The Bohemian”. ![]() Enneagram Four with a Three-Wing: “The Aristocrat”.Basic Desire: To find themselves and their significance (to create an identity).Basic Fear: That they have no identity or personal significance.At their Best: inspired and highly creative, they are able to renew themselves and transform their experiences. They typically have problems with melancholy, self-indulgence, and self-pity. Withholding themselves from others due to feeling vulnerable and defective, they can also feel disdainful and exempt from ordinary ways of living. ![]() ![]() They are emotionally honest, creative, and personal, but can also be moody and self-conscious. Type Four The Sensitive, Introspective Type: Expressive, Dramatic, Self-Absorbed, and Temeperamental Type Four in Briefįours are self-aware, sensitive, and reserved. Today, enjoy reflections on Type Fours and Prayer. Type Five will be posted next Wednesday, July 2. Join me in welcoming back the Enneagram & Prayer series! Thanks for your grace as I’ve taken a needed break. ![]()
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